"I don't trust myself." One of the most common limiting beliefs I see among the men who come to me for help. Sometimes this is a literal spoken sentence, and other times it's a clear message based on behavior.  Either way, it's rooted in shame and resignation, like it's an indictment of their ...

  Hey everyone, Loneliness. It's one of those words we throw around constantly in recovery circles—right up there with "connection" and "self-care." But what does it actually mean? And more importantly, what do we do about it? Here's what I know from working with hundreds of men in recovery: lon...

Hey y'all, If you've listened to my recovery story, you may recall that early on, I found a job serving at a local high-end steakhouse.  Every day before the shift began, we were required to circle around the managers to hear the latest announcements and typically a list of server wrongdoings.  ...

There are powers greater than our individual selves—this is undeniable.  You might draw strength from nature's cycles, wisdom from ancestors who walked difficult paths before you, or guidance from your highest self (the version of you that already exists in your future, calling you forward). The...

  This is Part 4 of our 4-part series "Breaking Free from the Approval Trap" (See part one,  part two, part three).  Marcus's New Path: Conscious Connection Marcus is sitting across from me on our Zoom call, and something is different. There's a settledness in his body that wasn't there six mon...

  This week, we take another perspective on the journey to one of, if not the, biggest hurdles for men in chemsex recovery, intimate connection. The path to rediscovering genuine intimacy and connection can feel daunting, especially when substances have been your bridge to physical encounters fo...