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    EDMR and Trauma - Informed Recovery
    
      
"Your brain needs time to recover. You've made these really strong associations, but our brains are plastic - they can change, they can reform, they can develop, they can make new associations." - Drake Schoeppl
Core Insights from This Episode
This conversation reveals the connection between u...
    
    
      
      May 29, 2025
    
    
      
        
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          lgbtq
        
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    You Didn't Fail, You Leveled Up!
    
      
 
If you take one concept from my content, its this:
The key to recovery- and happiness- is reframing how you interpret (respond to) life experience. 
The only difference between someone who has a substantial amount of abstinent time and someone who is caught up in the relapse cycle is the abili...
    
    
      
      May 26, 2025
    
    
      
        
          addiction recovery
        
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    ADHD and Chemsex Addiction
    
      
Let me be vulnerable with you: 
I've discovered lately that I sometimes invalidate the experiences of others.
And if you follow my content, you'll know how much I've advised you not to invalide the experience of others.
Because, what we judge becomes our karma (our learning opportunity). 
In oth...
    
    
      
      May 22, 2025
    
    
      
        
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    The Ultimate Recover Life-Hack
    
      
 
I woke up but kept my eyes closed. 
I was lying on top of the blankets because the sheets were soiled, but not from me. 
The sound of booming bass and laughter from the parking lot at 6am might seem abnormal in most situations. 
Not at the Greenleaf Inn. 
My home away from home: the streets. 
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      May 19, 2025
    
    
      
        
          addiction recovery
        
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          lgbtq
        
          mindfulness
        
      
    
  
    From Teacher to Tweaker: Bobby's Story
    
      
So happy to introduce you to my new Assistant Coach, Bobby! 
On this week's episode, you'll get to hear his story AND hear the two of us offer coaching advice to real listener letters.
Bobby's powerful story of facing arrest, finding peace in surrender, and rebuilding his life offers insights fo...
    
    
      
      May 15, 2025
    
    
      
        
          addiction
        
          addiction recovery
        
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    How Perfectionism Fuels Meth Use
    
      
 
(This is a long one, but - in my opinion - worth the time AND if you are enjoying my newsletters, please forward to someone who might also enjoy!)
You want to stop using meth?
You want to stop fighting urges?
You want to stop repeating patterns?
Then you must dig deep into the core of your suf...
    
    
      
      May 12, 2025
    
    
      
        
          addiction recovery
        
          childhood trauma
        
          lgbtq
        
          perfectionism
        
      
    
  
    Sexual Intimacy Through Dance
    
      
 
"Embodiment to me is deep listening to the signals that my body gives me around what's right and wrong for my life." - Gary
Our bodies are always speaking to us.
Tightness in the chest, upset stomach, swollen throat... 
Anything we feel in the physical is a message from our spirit.
But, most ...
    
    
      
      May 08, 2025
    
    
      
        
          addiction recovery
        
          chemsex
        
          conscious dance
        
          erotic dance
        
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    Become a Disciple of Your Higher Self
    
      
 
Discipline isn't punishment.
It's not shame.
It's not even about willpower.
Real discipline is about loving yourself enough to create conditions where you can truly thrive.
It's about making small promises to yourself and keeping them.
It's about building trust with the one person who will be ...
    
    
      
      May 05, 2025
    
    
      
        
      
    
  
    Contingency Management
    
      
The first time I heard the term "Harm Reduction" was from a straight male meth dealer.
I was later in my active use when my mom brought me to West Virginia to get my life together.
This guy needed someone who could 'hit a vein,' and I needed free drugs. So, our relationship was transactional and...
    
    
      
      May 01, 2025
    
    
      
        
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    Stop Playing the Victim!
    
      
 
We often think about narcissists being master manipulators. And, well, they are.
But, in my experience, those who position themselves as the perpetual victim are the true masters.
You can tell right away by someone's conversation if they accept the victim role in their lives:
"My boyfriends we...
    
    
      
      Apr 28, 2025
    
    
      
        
          addiction recovery
        
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    Attachment Styles and Chemsex Addiction
    
      
There's something so exciting about the texting dance that occurs after you match with someone from a dating app (at least the ones who are able to carry on a conversation).
I guess you could say it's the modern version of "courtin'."
I used to love sharing and learning with new matches. At one ...
    
    
      
      Apr 24, 2025
    
    
      
        
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          attachment style
        
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    Wake Up and Take Control
    
      
Most of this world is asleep.
Wake up. Scroll. Gym. Work. Scroll. Netflix. Sleep.
What a life. 
The average person who grew up in suburbia, graduated from college, was employed by a corporation, married, had kids...
I often wonder how they could ever know what it's like to smoke a bowl of meth a...
    
    
      
      Apr 21, 2025
    
    
      
        
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