If you take one concept from my content, its this:
The key to recovery- and happiness- is reframing how you interpret (respond to) life experience.
The only difference between someone who has a substantial amount of abstinent time and someone who is caught up in the relapse cycle is the ability to shift perspective.
Successful recovery is about perception, not perfection.
Today, I want to explain in more practical detail what I mean by this.
Refer to last week's newsletter on applying stories to your life.
Everything we experience is neutral.
We get to choose the meaning- and the story- around it.
Our choice either empowers or disempowers.
Hense the importance of refrmaing the way you see relapse, setbacks, mistakes, and what you perceive as negative events.
Read and integrate this:
In recovery, when it feels like you're falling backward, you've actually just reached the bottom of your next level up.
Life is all about levels, similar to a video game (which were created to mimick life).
But not heirarchy-type levels like we are prone to think.
When we feel like we're relapsing or regressing, we're often standing at the threshold of our greatest transformation.
If you frame your life this way, you begin to feel grateful for "set-backs" and "mistakes."
I don't usually use sports metaphors, but its like you were the star player on the junior varsity team (stretch of abstinence), and now you're sitting on the bench of the varsity team (new level after using) β higher, but it temporarily feels lower.
This is how all of life works. But especially when we are on the recovery journey.
Let's explore how we can transform our relationship with pain and create new destinies in recovery.
1. The Test Is Not the Setback β It's the Setup
When we set a powerful intention for our recovery journey β be it sobriety, connection, or self-love β we're often immediately presented with its exact opposite.
Want peace? Here comes chaos.
Want clarity? Welcome, confusion.
Want connection? Hello, isolation.
