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Stop Playing the Victim!

Apr 28, 2025
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We often think about narcissists being master manipulators. And, well, they are.

But, in my experience, those who position themselves as the perpetual victim are the true masters.

You can tell right away by someone's conversation if they accept the victim role in their lives:

"My boyfriends were just awful to me"

"My boss is out to get me"

"My friends are always leaving me out"

"My family is so mean to me"

Everyone is against them. And they can't see that they are the common denominator.

The victim mindset can grip us not just in our relationship with meth, but in every aspect of our lives.

This isn't about shame or judgment. It's about recognizing a pattern that's keeping us from living as our highest selves.

When I was deep in my addiction, I blamed everything and everyone.

My childhood trauma.

The stress of being gay in this world.

The pressures of work.

The rejection I'd faced.

What I didn't realize was that this victim mentality was as addictive as the crystal itself—and just as destructive.

Today, I want to share 4 Guideposts for Breaking Free from Victimhood and stepping into our power as creators of our own experience.


1. Become the Compassionate Observer

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