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Be a Freak Between the Sheets (Safely)

Be a Freak Between the Sheets (Safely)

Just because you use meth doesn't mean you have to look like it.

(Some sage advice I received from one of my first parTy buddies.)

He took me under his wing as a new Tina inductee, giving me a list of tips and tricks to keep my appearance and health in check.

He helped me expand my mobile "Whore Bag" that I carried with me at all times (lube, cockring, jockstrap, tube socks, toys, enema, HDMI cord, etc.).

My bag also doubled as a "Tina First Aid Kit" (Biotene spray, Gatorade, gallon water jug, Moderna lotion, breath spray, alcohol wipes, medication dumped into a larger container so I'd see it, etc.).

He taught me the importance of keeping my gums hydrated and having my skin looked after to preserve my appearance.

I'm actually pretty grateful for him. No one else ever warned me about ANYTHING related to the consequences of parTying.

If you are going to use meth, why not do it responsibly? Set loud timers to remind you to take meds, drink LOTS of water, use fentanyl strips, clean needles, and take Doxy PEP. What have I missed?

This week's episode will help you stay sexually safe, sober or otherwise. I'm happy to bring this information to you. Enjoy!

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PODCAST STUDY GUIDE

Intergenerational Trauma and Addiction

The cycle of addiction often begins with unresolved trauma that passes through generations like an invisible thread.

As Christopher's story illustrates, finding acceptance among professional peers who used substances made him particularly susceptible to addiction. Despite his medical background and family history in civil service, the desire to belong and cope with workplace trauma led to a destructive pattern.

His experience working in the neuro ICU while using substances demonstrates how high-functioning addiction can mask deeper struggles.

Through recovery, Christopher learned that understanding these patterns doesn't excuse harmful actions but creates space for compassion and healing.

His journey from addiction to advocacy shows how recovery can become a path to healing not just personal wounds but also helping others break free from shame and isolation.

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Like Christopher, have you experienced tension between your professional life and addiction? How did you navigate this?

Professional Impact and Disclosure

Healthcare professionals face unique challenges when dealing with addiction, as their struggles intersect with their responsibility to care for others.

Christopher's decision to be public about his recovery journey demonstrates both the benefits and risks of disclosure in professional settings.

While openness has helped him connect authentically with patients and break down stigmas, he's also faced resistance from senior leadership uncomfortable with this transparency.

His experience shows how vulnerability can bridge gaps between healthcare providers and patients, particularly in discussing sensitive topics like HIV and addiction.

By sharing his story, he's created a model for how healthcare professionals can use their personal experiences to enhance patient care while maintaining appropriate boundaries.

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What role has acceptance and belonging played in your relationship with substances? How might being more open about your experiences help others, as Christopher's advocacy has?

Harm Reduction and Health Management

A comprehensive approach to recovery must acknowledge that healing rarely follows a straight line.

Christopher emphasizes the importance of harm reduction tools like fentanyl test strips, Narcan, and regular health screenings.

His work through "Freak Between the Sheets" promotes sexual health awareness and harm reduction without judgment, recognizing that shame only perpetuates risky behaviors.

He advocates for multiple prevention tools, including PrEP (in both daily and injectable forms), DoxyPEP, and regular testing.

Christopher's approach demonstrates how healthcare providers can move from a stance of "do no harm" to "do less harm," meeting people where they are in their journey while providing resources for safer choices.

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How can you implement harm reduction strategies in your current situation?

As Christopher's journey demonstrates, recovery involves both personal healing and the potential to help others through shared experiences.

Whether you choose to be public about your story or maintain privacy, implementing harm reduction strategies and building strong support systems are crucial steps toward sustained recovery.

Remember that healing happens at your own pace, and there's no single path to recovery.

"Recovery is not built in a day," as Christopher emphasizes. Be patient with yourself while remaining committed to your health and wellbeing.

Love, Dallas 💚

P.S. I'm accepting clients into my 1:1 Coaching Program called Recovery Alchemy. In six months, I promise your life will look much differently than it does today. Click Here to Apply.

Reflective Question

What fears do you have about being public with your recovery journey?

Journal Prompts

  1. Following Christopher's example of public advocacy, what aspects of your story might help others if shared?
  2. Describe a moment when, like Christopher's experience in the ICU, you maintained a facade of functionality despite struggling. What did this cost you?
  3. Write about a time when someone showed you the kind of acceptance that made recovery feel possible.
  4. If you could create your own platform for advocacy, like Christopher's TikTok channel, what would you focus on?
  5. Reflect on how your professional identity has either helped or hindered your recovery journey.

Action Exercises

  1. Harm Reduction Kit Assembly
    • Create a safety kit including fentanyl test strips
    • Obtain Narcan and learn proper usage
    • Research local resources for free testing and supplies
  2. Health Management Checklist
    • Schedule comprehensive STI testing
    • Research PrEP options (daily pill vs. injectable)
    • Create a medication tracking system
    • Learn about DoxyPEP and discuss with healthcare provider
  3. Support Network Building
    • Identify professionals who can relate to your experience
    • Research local LGBTQ+ affirming healthcare providers
    • Create a list of non-judgmental support resources
  4. Professional Boundary Setting
    • Define personal limits for sharing your story
    • Create guidelines for maintaining professional relationships
    • Plan responses for workplace situations involving substances
  5. Advocacy Development
    • List ways you might help others in recovery
    • Research platforms for sharing your experience
    • Identify stigmas you want to help break