Discipline is NOT Punishment (but is required to get sober)

Hey beautiful souls,

I've been thinking a lot about what makes recovery stick – what transforms it from a daily struggle into something that feels more natural and sustainable.

The answer keeps coming back to one word: discipline.

Before you roll your eyes (like I used to), let's talk about what discipline really means in recovery.

Redefining Discipline in Recovery

Discipline isn't about punishing yourself or forcing yourself to white-knuckle through cravings.

It's about becoming the director of your own life rather than letting your thoughts, emotions, or urges run the show.

Think about it: How often have you said, "I'll stop using tomorrow" and meant it with every fiber of your being, only to find yourself answering that familiar text a few hours later?

That's not because you're weak – it's because you're trying to rely solely on willpower instead of building a foundation of discipline.

Why Discipline Matters in Recovery

When we're in active addiction, we're essentially at the mercy of our immediate feelings.

If we feel triggered, we use. If we feel lonely, we use. If we feel happy, we use. See the pattern?

But here's the truth: Recovery requires us to do things that don't always "feel good" in the moment. Sometimes, it means:

• Sitting with uncomfortable emotions instead of numbing them
• Saying no to old friends even when we're lonely
• Enduring boredom instead of scrolling on social media or Grindr
• Maintaining a routine, even on days when you don't feel like it

Building Your Discipline Muscle

Just like building physical strength, developing discipline is a gradual process. Here's how you can start:

1. Start Small: Choose one recovery-supporting habit to focus on this week. Maybe it's morning meditation or evening journaling.
2. Create Clear Structures: Set specific daily goals and schedule your time. Stop allowing your day to schedule you.
3. Plan for Resistance: Expect that part of you will resist these changes. That's normal and okay.
4. Track Your Progress: Keep a simple log of your committed actions, no matter how small.
5. Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge every time you choose recovery over instant gratification.

Remember: We're not aiming for perfection here. We're aiming for progress.

Every time you choose to stick to a commitment, even when it's uncomfortable, you're casting a vote for who you're becoming – a person who is recovered from crystal meth use.

Your journey might include setbacks, and that's okay. Real discipline isn't about never falling – it's about getting back up and continuing on your path, one small choice at a time.

This Week's Challenge

Choose ONE small recovery-supporting action you'll commit to doing every day this week.

Write it down. Share it with your accountability partner. Then, do it – even when you don't feel like it.

Especially when you don't feel like it.

Remember, you're not alone in this journey. If you're struggling to build discipline in your recovery, reach out. Whether it's to your sponsor, your recovery community, or me – support is available.

I believe in and love you, Dallas 💚

Journal Prompts for Reflection

Take some time to explore these questions in your journal:

1. "When I think about becoming more disciplined in my recovery, what fears come up for me?"
2. "What is one small action I can commit to doing every day this week, even when I don't feel like it?"
3. "How has lacking discipline affected my recovery journey so far?"
4. "What does my ideal morning routine look like? What's stopping me from starting it tomorrow?"
5. "When I successfully stick to a commitment, how does it make me feel afterward?"

Deep Reflection Questions

Consider asking yourself:

• Am I using "not feeling like it" as a reason to avoid recovery work?
• What beliefs do I hold about discipline that might inhibit my progress?
• How might my recovery look different three months from now if I started building disciplined habits today?

P.S. If you're ready to take your recovery journey to the next level and want support in building these disciplined habits, I still have two spots open for 1:1 coaching this month. Click here to apply.